By living in sexy surroundings and focussing on bringing sensuality to the fore, anyone can increase their sexual power. It gives constant reinforcement to the sexual self image which can only serve to increase sexual messages sent out to potential partners.
Sex up the Bookshelf
There are numerous erotic classics that can add sensuality to anyone’s book collection, helping broaden the mind and add new sensual perspectives. Anais Nin, Pauline Reage and the Marquis de Sade wrote some of the most popular erotic classics. Many people also enjoy reading the fantasies in Nancy Friday books like My Secret Garden (Quartet Books) – a guide to women’s sexual fantasies.
There are also numerous contemporary erotic imprints. Xcite Books and Cleis Press have erotic titles covering everything from steamy romance to fetish. Black Lace and Nexus are two other imprints providing a wide range of erotic novels: the former for women and the latter for men. Or for free online erotica, try Literotica.
Erotic stories are a great way to encourage sexual communication, offering partners the opportunity to discuss and share fantasies – or simply opt for cerebral foreplay. Obviously, erotic stories are also a great way to enhance solo pleasure.
Sex up the Bedroom
The bedroom is generally the place that most people have the majority of their sexual encounters. Turning the bedroom into a boudoir helps keep erotic daydreams at the fore. Aromatherapy candles scented with rose, sandalwood or ylang ylang help add a sensual mood.
Sexy sheets, whether high thread count cotton, silk, satin or velvet, caress the skin and add an extra layer of sensuality to sexual encounters. Fake fur throws and duck down pillows are ideal to recline against. And erotic inspirations, whether a library of erotic films, collection of erotic books by the bedside or sensual illustrations on the wall all help reinforce the message that the bedroom is for lovemaking.
Create a Sexy Home
The bedroom isn’t the only place that can be sexually charged. Fresh flowers, sensual fabrics, erotic aromatherapy oils or incense and comfortable areas that make reclining erotically come naturally will all help a home seem sexier.
Some people also like erotic art. There are numerous artists ranging from people such as Eve Poland, who creates fun and sexy cartoons, to Jamie McCartney who creates erotic body sculptures by casting real people. Specialist erotic art galleries such as Impure Art show the wonderful array of sexy art that’s available.
Create a Sexy Love Hamper
Creating a seduction hamper is also a sexy idea that can encourage healthy sexual experimentation. The contents can vary depending on preference but could include erotic aromatherapy massage oil, fake fur stroking mitts, herbal aphrodisiacs, blindfolds and bondage ties.
There are also numerous sex toys available, from cock rings to crystal dildos, the ubiquitous Jessica Rabbit or kinkier options such as butt plugs. Couples may find it easiest – and most enlightening – to choose toys together. Indeed, creating a sex hamper together can be a fun way to get the mind focused on sex.
Condoms are an essential for singles, unless they have been tested for sexually transmitted infections and are practising monogamous sex with a regular casual partner who has also been tested. They are also essential for couples unless both people have been tested. Love doesn’t protect against sexually transmitted infections.
The love hamper can be stored in the bedroom, bathroom or anywhere else in the house it’s likely to get used …
Sex up Every Aspect of Life
Almost every aspect of life can be given a sexy twist. The fridge can be a home to erotic aphrodisiac snacks; the drinks cabinet can house ingredients for sexy cocktails; the bathroom can be filled with erotic bathing accessories; even the garden can have a sexy twist added by planting aphrodisiac herbs, and being used to grow sexy cutting flowers such as roses, or erotically scented flowers such as jasmine.
By thinking of ways to add a sexy charge to every aspect of life, and incorporating sexy treats into a relationship, sexiness will become more of a priority in anyone’s life. And once that erotic inspiration is there, sensual activity is sure to follow.